How to Save Your Relationship, With Divorce Lawyer James J. Sexton

James J. Sexton is a divorce lawyer who has spent his career working with couples whose marriages are dissolving. He’s learned a lot throughout the years about what sours a good marriage (or ends a relationship that’s already in trouble), and now he’s using that knowledge to help the rest of us. His new book is If You’re In My Office It’s Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer’s Guide to Staying Together.

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Discussed in This Episode:

  • Why do people get married when the divorce statistics are so grim
  • How we put more thought into our wedding than into our marriage
  • Why you should figure out how you’re going to communicate
  • The little things are how we fall in love—and they’re how we can fall out of love
  • How switching to an open relationship mid-stream can cause problems
  • How Facebook is a breeding ground for infidelity
  • Why divorce lawyers call couples counseling “delaying the inevitable”
  • How married partners with kids should emulate divorced couples